You never know when you may catch a beautiful glimmer of hope. For me, it was in the back of a car on the way to the store. Not referring to the hope of meeting the right one and no longer being single, but rather to the realization of purpose and meaning and warmth in life, amidst being single.
When a big crew of family gathered, several of us drove to the grocery to pick up frozen food for supper. While I rode alone in the backseat, a random thought struck, infused me with joy, and utterly surprised me.
I suddenly realized, comprehended and embraced an idea I had uncomfortably pushed away for years: that God is enough for me.
At college, students with guitars led fellow students in songs like, “More than all I want, More than all I need, You are more than enough for me.” (Chris Tomlin, Louie Giglio) The whole time we sang those lyrics, I questioned and disbelieved the extent. Yes, God is good, but there are also other things I want or need..
I now realized that He is a prized possession, and that even if I never get married or score a prestigious job or acquire my biggest dreams, I do have the most wonderful treasure in the world – more valuable than anything else – and that He is more than enough. The utter warmth and joy was amazing as I realized how wonderful and priceless God is!
While overseas this summer, I was rather resistant to the insights I heard from two missionaries. The first shared in an evening session on a front porch in Cambodia that sometimes God wants people to be single (at least for a season) and there is so much you can do for the Lord as a single person.
The latter said while trekking rugged terrain around ancient ruins that she can be called upon to move from one country to another at moment’s notice, and can do so freely, because she is single.
I didn’t want to hear these insights, but they were right. When you’re 33 and single, it may be that while the other kids are chomping their chocolate bars or sipping their milkshakes, God is telling you, “You’re going to eat dinner first.”
When you’re 33 and single, it’s about time you shifted your focus from your unmet dreams to the important and exciting tasks God’s set before you.
There’s so much to be done, and so little time. Following Jesus into the world. Embarking on mission trips and building cross-cultural connections. Playing with nieces and nephews. Contacting friends. Connecting with church members and coworkers. Making music. Laughing with family. Visiting shut-ins. Smiling, praying, caring, sharing. Drawing closer to God each day. It’s all worth it, and wonderful, if it’s about God.
Jesus is the Good Shepherd, leading the way. He knows what you need, and He supplies more than you could ever ask. Even if He leads you down a path you would not have chosen, He sees the entire way. You simply need to trust and follow your Shepherd as He leads. And all along, you have the most prized possession ever, and have the anticipation of eternity with Him. “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” (Psalm 23:6) Amen!